Eco Elly’s

What’s the difference between a gift and a present? According to Merriam Webster…not much. But in my own personal semantic universe I view things a little differently: a present = a gift, a gift may or may not = a present. See, the way I see it is that a present is an item given as a gift, it’s tangible, physical. A gift might be an actual object…but it could be an action, the gift of time or service. Ecologically speaking it’s non-present gifts that tend to be the greenest, and often the most appreciated. After all…haven’t we all felt like we’ve been smothered in clutter after the holidays at one time or another? The vast number of people who flock to the stores after Christmas to return this gift or that gift testify that giving presents is a hit or miss endeavor. So…what’s the solution?

Give your time and yourself to the people you love. Most people feel more loved if they’re given someone’s time because time is so precious. The amount of time given is proportionate to the perceived value of a gift. Offer to clean some-one’s entire house, or babysit once a month for free, or whatever service is needed. The only impact your gift is likely to have is on the hearts and minds of the receivers. But if you feel a present is important just carry over the “time=value principle” to the object you give…make up baking mixes in jars, craft a handmade article of clothing (knit, sew, whatever), create a personalized Christmas ornament (try getting creative with household items before rushing out to the craft store).

If you still want to receive or give a conventional present consider a practical one. I know our culture often views such gifts as taboo…but it shouldn’t be that way. For example we’ll likely be moving to my home state next year, and into an apartment with carpet. We don’t currently own a vacuum. I’d be thrilled to get a high quality vacuum for my birthday or Christmas. Why should I be offended that someone gave me something I need, and want? Why should I be offended that someone knows what’s going on in my life, is paying attention to me?  I don’t see it as insulting in the least. I guess some might think it’s somehow sexist to give a girl a vacuum…a loud, tacky way of saying you belong in the home. But since I want to be a “domestic executive” that’s just fine with me. Besides, I know that no-one who loves me enough to give me a gift would purposely try to insult me. And if you’re concerned about offending something there are other gifts that are practical besides home appliances…think about their needs. If you’re still worried they’ll be disappointed with a practical present, or a non-present gift…perhaps you should consider making friends with people who share your values….or give them a charity gift (available through organizations like Heifer International) and let it go if they don’t ooh and ahh over your gift. It’s the thought that counts.